My husband's doctor asked me if I think the meds are helping. How can you know what it would be like if he was not taking them? Is the quality of his life better? Beats the heck out of me. There seems to be some question as to exactly what these meds do. I will have to discuss this further with his doctor. From what I read, it is supposed to help with cognitive and other emotional issues. Does is still help prevent further damage to the brain? I've read that ultimately death comes when the brain stops telling the body how and when to function and slowly shuts down. Is that true? If so, do the meds prolong the brains ability to control the physical functioning of the body? If so..than doesn't that mean that the meds prolong life? Arghhh. Making decisions for someone u love so much....is an awful part of life. But have Alzheimer's is even worse!!! Wish I had all the ethical and moral questions clear in my heart.
Balance that information with the side effects some people suffer from and it's not always an easy choice. I've heard from people who feel that the meds have been a miracle. I've heard from people who've witnessed side effects that completely negate any good that the drugs may do.
Talk over your concerns with the doctor. If you do decide to go with the drugs, remember that there is a time when the drugs are no longer effective, so in essence, more drugs simply mean more negative side effects.
We all wish there were clear cut answers to these issues. The fact that there aren't is probably one of the hardest issues to fact. Working closely with the doctor is vital. You may want to keep a journal of daily (hourly?) moods and behaviors so that you have some track record for comparing.
Take care, Gorlin , and please update us when you can. This is a problem faced by a large percentage of caregivers in this community.
Carol
That is all that can really be evaluated. Do they seem to be feeling better? That is the primary goal of the meds. We all know our loved ones certainly would not be able to judge, at least in a way that required them to reason out their decision.
I agree, this is a horrible position to be in, having to make these kinds of decisions and many more. Hang in there!
I can feel your relief and joy. when my mom's switch flipped, I was incredulous with relief. I still am and it is almost a year now.
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