She thinks she did no wrong? Went to step mother's home to help stepsister remove a light fixture. Sent step sister to store ‘began loading up all her fathers clothes without asking anybody if she could have them, or if ok. Refused to bring them back after stepmom called her extremely upset & argued with her. My mother is staying with me at my home because she has dementia & loss of spouse 1 wk after moving from her home she is totally lost & now angry & crying all day. Help.
Joann clothes can have sentimental value. Not everyone wants the valuables. (Watches).
Sorry, I should have said that I saw your side of the story too. ( was giving SS the benefit of the doubt)
Yes, ur step sister was wrong. She went into a house which was not her own and took things that really belonged to your mother now her husband was gone. ( whats mine is yours) When asked, she should have returned them. Why would she want his clothes anyway? A keepsake, like a watch, I can see but clothes?
It seems there is a problem with boundries when two separate families are merged together. No matter how long the couple is married, the steps seem to think they have rights over the spouse. Which they don't.
I suggest you change locks on Moms house. Its her house, her right.
Off topic here...but when cleaning out someones clothing, check pockets. My boss was asked to get some clothes together for a friend that was going to LTC. She checked the pockets of a coat and found $400. My Aunt was good about putting her Bingo winnings in record albums and books. My cousin found 3000 cleaning her house out.
took a packet of letters to copy and never returned them.
I also watched cousins haul off truckloads of my aunts collectibles while she was
very ill. The problem is once things are gone it's hard to prove or have any
leverage for their return other than to directly appeal to their common decency.
I'd say speak with her directly and calmly as possible and be prepared to negotiate
with her (ie letting her keep some items) . Consider she could be taking them to simply donate them, and may well think she is doing you both a favor. Some people can be quite callous in these types of situations and just want to speed things along. Talk to her asap to sort things out. Best of luck!!
Whose name is the house in?
How did she get in?