He's 68, can communicate with others and knows people, and showers by himself, but needs help with setting out the towels, wash cloth, soap and shampoo. Also, needs help with setting out daily clothes and night clothes. He no longer can drive. Eats and drinks ok, but gets confused of how to eat certain things. Vitals are good, but on bp meds.
I'm same age, poor health and totally exhausted. We have home care occasionally, but I need someone to come here on an "on call " basis, when I have an emergency with my health issues, i.e. going to the doctor or hospital. Nothing is working for us in our area, as for emergency help. Families are out of town, so no help there. I'm so exhausted, but he's not bad enough to go to a facility, especially during this pandemic. Help, Please?
If you are already in poor health and need to go to the doctor or the hospital so frequently, you need to develop a plan immediately!! Is that why you are asking about Respite care? Because you live in such a small town/village (with a population less than 3,000) and because you are concerned what will happen to your husband if you need to go to the hospital for a long period of time or to a rehab/LTC facility yourself?
http://www.coaaa.org/cms/images/docs/guides/COAAA_Respite-Guide.pdf is a document for the “Central Ohio Area Agency on Aging”. Their phone numbers are: 614-645-7250 & 800-589-7277. Website is: www.coaaa.org
Contact the Area Agency on Aging for more assistance regarding your situation.
https://www.helpguide.org/articles/caregiving/respite-care.htm
This website does a good job of explaining the different types of RESPITE care available. HOWEVER, there may be restrictions due to COVID that limit the types of Respite that can be offered at this time.
Hopefully another member has some ideas.