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Have you talked to the VA about a Homemaker Health Aid I think that is the term. They will pay for a certain number of hours so you can get out. That should help you a bit. Also have you talked to the Social Worker? they might be able to get more help or possibly help bump the appointment. If this is stressing you out this much they will do everything they can to help out. You might also want to check into a program I had here a while back through the VA called VIP (think it stood for Veterans in Place) the idea is they want to keep veterans at home this program will allow you to hire caregivers and the program pays for them and you have to pick 2 other things that will help so for me it was lawn care and housekeeping. They will have someone come in to evaluate him and a budget is determined by how much help is needed. I know my Husbands primary would not prescribe further unless he saw the psychiatrist just as we got to that appointment my Husband fell and broke his hip so we never made that appointment. My Husband actually had kind of the opposite "problem" he was non verbal but made noises, a constant moaning. Funny thing..I miss that noise now!
Yes the drs know. His insurance is VA. They wont give him anything stronger than quietiapine and a sleeper that dont work everyday. Hes also on gabapentin. I'm trying to bump up his dr appt so I dont have to wait until Sept.
This would drive me nuts... I absolutely need quiet time in my house, without even music or tv going. He sounds very agitated. Have you talked to the doctor about this? Does he act that way in front of the doctor? Is he on any meds to help calm him down? Do you have any caregiver help so you can escape daily for a while?
Hi Jill, I think some sort of med is needed to slow his brain down. Does he enjoy music, tv, books on audio? My Mom can’t follow tv too much anymore and is slowing down on reading significantly as she progresses but she does like the classic country music channel on tv where they also posts facts and tidbits about the artist as they perform. Good luck finding a way to rest your ears and keep your sanity.
I second ear plugs, back in my child care days they saved my sanity. Just try the spongy kind you get at the drug store, they don't block out everything but just turn down the volume.
I have earplugs. When he thinks I cant hear him he gets right in front of me, bends down, looks me right in the eyes and will stand there and stare at me until I answer .
My husband chooses 5 AM, when I get up, to be very conversational. Unfortunately, he mumbles and since my ears aren’t “awake” yet I have a hard time understanding him.
I don’t hang on his every word or feel I need to reply to him every time he says something. Sometimes he’s satisfied with a slightly distracted “umm-hmm”. After 45 years of marriage, it works out ok. He listens to me babble too!
I could see how that can get under your skin. My mom is no where near that stage but still her level of wanting to talk is WAY more than mine which makes it challenging for me.
Does he demand answers? Or can you just ignore him when you prefer not to interact?
Do you have any caregivers to let you get away from the noise?
Ear plugs? I can't imagine how annoying it must be. Relief of some sort is essential for you. I need a few hours of silence a day, either out of the house, or up when no one else is. Luckily, my aunt was very quiet. She talked a lot only when she had a UTI. Best stories I ever heard from her then, like her nursing friend in the Army Nursing Corps who married a computer.
Good luck finding your solution, either time away for you, or a placement for him.
Thank you! There's GOT to be something that can be done. I used to be able to get about 3hrs of silence in the morning before he woke up. Not anymore. Its exhausting.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
Also have you talked to the Social Worker? they might be able to get more help or possibly help bump the appointment. If this is stressing you out this much they will do everything they can to help out.
You might also want to check into a program I had here a while back through the VA called VIP (think it stood for Veterans in Place) the idea is they want to keep veterans at home this program will allow you to hire caregivers and the program pays for them and you have to pick 2 other things that will help so for me it was lawn care and housekeeping. They will have someone come in to evaluate him and a budget is determined by how much help is needed.
I know my Husbands primary would not prescribe further unless he saw the psychiatrist just as we got to that appointment my Husband fell and broke his hip so we never made that appointment. My Husband actually had kind of the opposite "problem" he was non verbal but made noises, a constant moaning. Funny thing..I miss that noise now!
I don’t hang on his every word or feel I need to reply to him every time he says something. Sometimes he’s satisfied with a slightly distracted “umm-hmm”. After 45 years of marriage, it works out ok. He listens to me babble too!
Does he demand answers? Or can you just ignore him when you prefer not to interact?
Do you have any caregivers to let you get away from the noise?
Good luck finding your solution, either time away for you, or a placement for him.