I can't send him to his room or deny him privileges! He has carried on for up to half an hour on several occasions, about things he doesn't like, such as: he doesn't like the present home aide, and I didn't consult him before choosing her (I had no choice of whom to get either - it was her or noone). He wouldn't stop yelling at me and repeating the same issues over and over. He wore me down until I promised to replace her. The next day - he volunteered that she was very nice!
This may seem cruel to some, but when aides go home crying because of her treatment of them, I have to step in so they all don't quit with out notice.
When you find something that works keep with it until it no longer works.
Sundowning. So frustrating. Vehemently denies having said she liked her at 1pm.
Before she had the PSW to complain about, she’d come over angry at her MIL (dead 53 years) or SIL (also dead).
If she gets particularly nasty I’ll escort her away. But I know we’ll repeat it all tomorrow.
Nothing u really can do. My daughter, a rehab/nh RN, lives 4 houses down. When my Mom would get like this, I called her and she calmed her down. I guess for your sanity, walk away. Let him grumble and just go on the way things are. Do not makes changes based on this tirade.
There's no reasoning or even talking when she's like this.
He pats her on the back, says "I'll come back some day when you feel better" and he walks away.
Just in this last year has he come to realize that trying to deal with her in a normal adult manner was pointless.
https://www.alz.org/help-support/caregiving/stages-behaviors/sleep-issues-sundowning?gclid=CjwKCAjwkN6EBhBNEiwADVfya0Vc1v3wd7WWinZmfDRqwbo6951DE_FPbglUjPPcfaE5vbp_yGhmMBoC5VYQAvD_BwE