I have had a live-in caregiver for 18 months. She recently start stealing from me, taking stuff and pawning it. The job came with room and board. To make her move out, do I have to evict her, or can I just change the locks and hope she goes away? She has always been good with my wife and I hate to lose her, but I can't trust her any longer.
Hopefully, you have actual evidence of her stealing. This may be your best way around the situation. If you have proof then you can file a police report and she would be arrested. Then - you would be able to apply for a restraining order- keeping her away from your wife, your property and you.
What is the thief going to do with your belongings when you leave to the pawn shop?
Sounds like a drug addict's sad sob story, imo.
It is not exactly repentance if you have to pay. Maybe only an emotional con in order to stick around?
You have kept her working there? You hate to lose her?
A simple call to 911 would have done it.
So sorry for you and your family.
What have you been paying her anyway? Maybe it is not enough?
Anyway, don't think that you really need advice anymore.
The easy way out would be to tell her you are placing your wife in a facility, etc. and will no longer need her services without letting on that you know she is stealing from you. Tell her you will provide a hotel room if she needs one for two weeks to facilitate her discharge. In the mean time lock everything up and keep an eye on things while she is in the home.
The difficult way...call the cops, make sure they are there , then tell her you know she is stealing from you and that you are filing charges against her and tell her to pack her bags, and let the cops to escort her out. then follow through with the charges.
Whatever you do, make sure there is another person in the house at all times while she is there, other than yourself as a witness. The cookie ones can come up with all sorts of charges against you and create real mayhem, so safeguard yourself and your wife.
I am sorry you have had to go through this. It is a terrible violation of trust. I felt terrible when it happened to my Mum and I. The caregiver was very nice and treated my Mum very well, but she started stealing after being with us for 2 months. Thankfully, she was not live-in.
Just curious, how did you know the caregiver was pawning the items? I doubt she was telling you that.
Personally, I don't think she's going to go through the whole effort of filing against you when she's guilty of stealing from you and that's hanging over her head.
There are many paths of eviction to take, and ending employment for cause. So one needs an attorney, especially when fighting a thief. Persuasion is often a good way to negotiate a settlement.
Since there is no information of how the 'caregiver' situation was contracted for, or even paid at all, the OP may have appreciated my passing on the information. imo.
Even though I do things legal (to the extreme), others travel on the edge of that line, and even cross it.
Okay then, to help her out, literally, pay for a hotel for two weeks and move her there.
Hopefully, you have actual evidence of her stealing. This may be your best way around the situation. If you have proof then you can file a police report and she would be arrested. Then - you would be able to apply for a restraining order- keeping her away from your wife, your property and you.
Once she has been charged there is no guarantee she would be put in jail or if put there - doesn’t make bail. Hence, the need for the restraining order. But do work with the police to arrange a time for her to be escorted to your home to collect her personal belongings.
Second, I would evict her.
Be sure to have her sign a forwarding address, give it to you to give to the post office as she gives you the key, as you say you will mail her pay to that address today.
Change the locks.
Inform the necessary neighbors if needed.