How do I respond?

I so agree with you.. I love my aunt and having the heart to tell me what happened. She did because she was very insulted how this married in relative kept on complaining when my she kept on with this insult. She then told her to get the two cleaning ladies she used to have come when my uncle was alive . She responded with more fury again telling her that she is not made of money and was then belittled and our best friend told her she would pay for it. I laughed when I heard that and told my aunt that to tell her was that before you or after you pay back the $5,000 I loaned you 5 years ago. Jesus if I was there that is exactly what i would of done was to reach under the sink and quietly put 409 and rag and thank her for noticing. And apprteciate complimenting for hosting her coming to help eat the burgers I prepared for her lunch and always clean restrooms. This was the 2nd time she said something the last time my aunt bit her tongue and gave her a pass this time she let her have it and defended all that I do beyond caregiver I always joke with her about which hats does she want me to wear. Just saving her from loneliness was a battle for her she is 95lbs wet and barely can walk Bob did a lot 50 years with her. if I did nothing she still would love me just for that. Now im stretching it. My response no kidding when she told me I said I would of not said a word and reached for the supplies. She said nah don't do that just let it go. I will watch what she does on her next visit if she does inspection then I will pounce with cleaning pail and gloves NO hosting. This person married into the family acts like she 's helping me out by at least saying she does and thanking me for being here and telling me I don't hear it enough from the other relatives. She is friendly to my aunt so much that my cousin her daughter who has her law degree never has or practiced 5 years later. There is more my aunt was sold by their mother our dear friend to help my aunt update her will and become POA and notory was done. I saw some of the updates while cleaning again her office and both her lawyer in UK and her sister were named beneficiaries to her life ins. policies. And though I like my cousin I cant help but feel that more is going on since she now lives in the UK and has to have her mother in on the estate planning, I don't say anything but even my aunt said she was uncomfortable that she left the area where her Porfirio/will etc. was placed for her conference over the pond with her daughter was left a mess. My aunt was buttered that her neat book was missing or papers removed and felt sick that she was oblivious to the whole thing. To top that off her sister who drove here because another emergency again and stopped at the house first coincidently and she was able to read the book/will that was left for out for that married in friend lawyers mother conference with UK daughter were to work on the book. It was not left out for her sisters snooping eyes, Because of the 6 hours at the hospital she her sister picked her up at the hospital and did not say a word and only when she was safe in her own home she called my aunt. Her sister mad as hell that her 5 useless kids who have never cared for her own mother let alone cared for my aunt other then nice visits and lunch disguised I guess as help was yelling over the phone she read that these kids of hers were not getting much and crushing my aunt that she read her book etc. she has been in gloom for over a week straight now over this being challenged it is sickening. Our married in friend did not explain what she has been doing since my aunt notarized her daughter POA. Now I am not stupid and know certain things about health wishes etc so I did something for myself and aunt about conversations we had if a scenario about her wishes if she were to be incapacitated that I hope my cousin has discuss the Advance health care directive (living will) as part of her estate preparation from over the pond. My aunt said she has not said anything about it to her she is just managing the portfolio. I say in the UK that’s bullocks first case lawyer in training.

if you dont stand up to the lippy relatives they will continue to abuse you. bullys like easy targets. next time they visit set a pail of soapy water in the kitchen with a rag in it. inform all of them that if they see something that isnt up to their liking they can feel free to give it a good scrubbing. theyre trying to embarrass/ belittle you so make sure theres embarrassment aplenty for everyone involved. ive worked for the public for 20 years and the hardest thing i had to learn was how to rare up when people try to punk me around. in my case pushing me around is just a prelude to taking advantage and cheating me out of money. you have to put a stop to it at the first snide comment..