Hi Blondie, confusing question, but my guess is that your parents-in-law have moved IN, and your sister-in-law is now visiting them in your house and making her presence very much felt.
I’d tackle the sister first. Some suggestions: 1) She takes parents out of your house for visits. 2) This includes her handling doctors appointments and shopping trips with them. 3) She has a time-table for visits in your house. Perhaps one morning a week, during which she also prepares a meal for all of you, or does their washing. 4) She doesn’t make any suggestions about what care they need, unless she is prepared to do it herself. 5) When you have your head around this, you talk it through with your husband before you give sister and parents the happy news about the new rules.
If I’ve guessed wrong about the situation, perhaps you could make things a bit clearer. Yours, Margaret
Blondie I just read your other posts. I didn’t notice a sister in the other posts. Whose sister is this? Is she there during the day to assist or has she also moved in?
Before your post was about MIL and her hygiene.
I am afraid you will have to deal with them until you decide you have had enough and you will have to advocate for yourself. If no one listens to you, evict them. Somehow you have to get their attention. If they are doing the best they can, then take steps to get them into a facility.
Like I said, boundaries only work when two are working on it. Setting a boundary for MIL about cleanliness won't work if she's no intention of getting cleaned up.
Your previous post says in-laws live with you. Have they found a place to live? Your previous posts say nothing about a sister being involved. If they are not living in your home, what type of boundaries do you think you will need for them? If they are gone, why do you have to get control of your house?
No idea what is happening here? Who lives with whom? Who owns the house? Setting boundaries is lovely. But what do you do when they break the boundaries?
I’d tackle the sister first. Some suggestions:
1) She takes parents out of your house for visits.
2) This includes her handling doctors appointments and shopping trips with them.
3) She has a time-table for visits in your house. Perhaps one morning a week, during which she also prepares a meal for all of you, or does their washing.
4) She doesn’t make any suggestions about what care they need, unless she is prepared to do it herself.
5) When you have your head around this, you talk it through with your husband before you give sister and parents the happy news about the new rules.
If I’ve guessed wrong about the situation, perhaps you could make things a bit clearer.
Yours, Margaret
I just read your other posts. I didn’t notice a sister in the other posts. Whose sister is this? Is she there during the day to assist or has she also moved in?
Before your post was about MIL and her hygiene.
I am afraid you will have to deal with them until you decide you have had enough and you will have to advocate for yourself. If no one listens to you, evict them. Somehow you have to get their attention. If they are doing the best they can, then take steps to get them into a facility.
Who lives with whom?
Who owns the house?
Setting boundaries is lovely. But what do you do when they break the boundaries?