My Mom has done as well as could be expected for someone 91 years old, who finds themselves in a nursing home, unable to do for themselves and no longer allowed to see their family due to Covid-19. The facility indicated that the only time family would be allowed to visit with their loved ones, is in an "end-of-life" situation. Based on the definitions of "end-of-life" symptoms I find, my Mom has exhibited many of them already and at present she is unable to make or receive calls on her cell phone, staring at the ceiling, doing something "strange" with her mouth but basically unresponsive, moaning, not eating, sayng she "thought she was a goner" or "I don't know how I'm living" and most recently "I want to die". The isolation and loneliness have whittled down her will to live and her nurses/CNA's describe her as "definitely not herself." I was called and given some vital signs that were atypical for my Mom (low BP and heart rate) this morning and her nurse was clearly upset and indicated she was going to call administration and express concerns about her and she felt we should be permitted to see her. Later, a different nurse called and said her vitals were excellent and that the facility wasn't going to allow a visit. When I asked if my mother had also started to respond, she said yes, so I asked her to call me on my Mom's cell phone so I could speak with her, which she did. My mother was not able to speak but the nurse said she was moving her mouth. We do not understand why arrangements can't be made for us to have some time with her, because nobody can guarantee when she will leave this earth. I won't stop trying to see her but if anyone has any suggestions for ways to go about it, please advise. God bless all the family members who are dealing with similar situations and my heart goes out to the caregivers, who are in the tough position of taking care of our loved ones and also fielding the requests that the administration should be addressing and also coming up with a plan to accommodate these needs during these extremely trying and difficult times.
But what you can do is you can ask the nursing homes director to think about that situation . They schedule appointments 45 minutes apart with 15 minutes to sanitize chairs table . You must arrive 15 minutes before schedule. They showed you where to park . Then some one checks your name off . And take you to the visitation area . They should have an area of the building on first floor of a outside window/door where you can have visitations with your loved ones. And also outside placed two chairs out there for you little sanitizer, Kleenex tissue this was so so wonderful it made my soul so much happier I hope this helped you and God bless you and keep you in perfect peace 🙏🏿