and we have been having all of the usual issues. Here recently he completely reinvented the life he had with my mother. They were together for 42 years and were inseparable. Now he completely believes she cheated on him and that some of us kids are not his.We get calls that he is fighting demons or that there are people in the attic(which he doesnt have) talking. He is in assisted living because his delusions and confusion got so bad he ended up in ICU. He has days where he is lucid and almost 100% but then he has really bad days. He has become adept at lying and hiding his issues from others.
My brother and I keep reminding each other that its not dad its the dementia/ Alzheimers but the stories he comes up with and the reasons he is acting the way he is are more and more outrageous. His psychiatrist sent the paperwork in for the conservatorship but now he is trying to blame my dads issues on other things when he was the one that said it was Alzheimers or dementia. It gets so aggravating and overwhelming. He will call me and tell me to come home I am in trouble for fighting with my brothers or tell me he is fighting the demons again and then he will call and say how are you today I haven't heard from you in a few weeks. He has also called and asked where my mom is because she is late getting home and she passed away 10 years ago.
I have had a few times I wanted to throw in the towel and just be done but I can not for better or worse he is my father.
Good that you have documents in order. If he wants to tell the doctor on you, let him. The doctor is experienced in these matters. I'm sorry that you have to go the conservator route, but it will be your protection. Once the doctor says he's incompetent and the court grants the conservatorship, it will answer any questions about your right to make decisions for him.
I know our demented loved ones don't mean to hurt us with their words but I also know how hurtful and frustrating they can be. Just do what you know is best for your Dad in the current circumstances. It's all any of us can do. You're right - it doesn't get any better. I just pray for the grace to make it through the next day/phase and so far, I'm making it. But it has not been easy. I hope you are able to hang in there with Dad. Keep some energy for you. You'll need it.