I know. I have ask this before and the suggestions I received was wonderful and have worked, until last nite. Mom has started calling at 1:15 this am, telling me I was late to take her to the beauty shop. I tried to explain that it was 1 in the morning and she needed to go back to bed. She lives in a assisted living home, She went down stairs to eat breakfast and they took her back to her apartment. She called me from 1:15 am until around 4 am when I stopped answering the phone. She then called my elderly neighbor and had her call me. I have discussed this problem with the neighbor and she usually just tells mom that she sees me outside and mom is happy with that. But not last nite. mom told the neighbor if I didnt call her she was calling 911 and send the cops over to see if someone had broken in on us and killed us. We cant turn her phone off as its hooked to her life line. I have the flu and went to the dr yesterday and got a bunch of meds but his main thing was telling me I need to catch up on my sleep I have been missing. How can I with mom calling every 15-20 minutes all nite. So I need some more suggestions on how to stop this. Its becoming a every nite thing.
For now, you need to turn off your phone at night so you can sleep.
However, after you are well, you may want to look into taking her to a doctor to be tested for dementia (if she hasn't already been tested). It sounds like she needs to be in a memory unit of some kind, either in assisted living or a nursing home. Then, she wouldn't have to have her phone.
My mom still kept her phone in the NH, but she wasn't as extreme as this. You really have to do something for your sake, but also for your neighbor, for the police and anyone else involved.
It's true that social services may have some other options, so it won't hurt to ask, but I do think your mom needs more supervision.
Good luck,
Carol
As for the neigbors turning their phone off, she is elderly and her son calls her to ck on her late at nite when he gets in from work. She is not going to agree to turning her phone off. And its really not just one neighob. Mom can remember phone numbers for everyone she ever knew and will call everyone around here until she gets in touch with someone to send over to ck on us. If she dont, she will call 911 and send someone for a well ck. I have spoken with the police dept and they tell me that by law, they have to respond to every request for a well ck they received.
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