My mother and I have always had a strained relationship, and sad to say back in early Sept this year, her husband passed away. Soon after her husband's death, a friend of hers took it upon herself to have POA over her as she has early stages of dementia. My mother was put in a care facility. Everything seemed fine, till I kept getting multiple calls saying you need to care for your mother. This last call I got was a couple days ago and I was getting yelled at, as I said that I was not going to care for her. I am tired and stressed. No one at all asked her to take on being her POA. I don't know how to cope, there is no love in my mom and I's relationship, yet they say because she is my mother that it is my duty to care for her.
her calls. You will never know if she calls or not. Its a nice not knowing. I have done it and you get some peace of mind.
If it is the facility calling, tell them that Mom has a POA that you cannot override. If they feel that she is not doing her job, then they need to report Mom to APS as a vulnerable adult. They will investigate and if felt that the POA is not carrying out her responsibilities, then the State will take over. Ask the facility not to involve you in any way. If POA gives them your ph#, tell them sorry but you cannot be responsible for Mom because of past abuse, trauma, etc. Do not allow them to talk u into anything. They will do anything not to take on the responsibility. The answer is NO and hang up. Then block their #. There is no law that says we have to care for a parent.
Stay strong and don't let yourself get sucked into something that was never yours to be begin with.