My mother died last nite and I am devastated. She has been sick and suffering in her decline She had an inter-abdominal Pleurex catheter to remove the ascites fluid buildup. Since she came home from hospital with this catheter it had been more of hindrance to her health than beneficial. The nurses kept removing large volumes of fluid which caused her blood pressure to drop super low. At one point 60/40. She had a seizure once. The doc orders were broad ranging. I made numerous calls to docs, radiologist, etc. to find out more specifics. Well, her blood pressure was doing super well last few days and I told at home nurse, that taking fluid for sure was causing low BP. Cardiologist had said so prior as well. What should have been done was to drain for comfort ONLY, my opinion. She was not uncomfortable with the excess fluid. Well yesterday all h#ll broke loose. The stupid nurse said that her stomach felt hard so let's take half a liter. I reluctantly agreed. After she took it out her BP plummeted. I freaked out. Put mom to bed, she told me her stomach hurt. Then she started vomiting shortly thereafter. Long story short, got hospice involved super quickly. My mother continued to vomit and spit up. She was non-stop moaning and flailing all afternoon into evening. The med amount wasn't enough to calm her. Called nurse at 8pm, she gave her dose after dose to calm her. Ativan, Haldol and Morphine. Didn't help the agitation. Gave her more and then some more until she finally was sleeping and calm. It was 11pm by this time. I checked on my mother and her breathing was irregular. She had green foam coming out of her mouth. I kept cleaning it. Then she just stopped breathing. Called 911. Funeral home wheeled her out. That morning she was up alert and ok and now she is dead. Everything happened so quickly. And I was by myself throughout the entire ordeal. I know that she is better off gone now considering all the discomfort and agitation she was feeling but I didn't want it to happen this way. I think her body just couldn't handle the removal of fluid and it brought on some other event that caused the rapid decline. So now I am left heart broken, traumatized, can't stop crying and in shock that she is gone. I lost my father 3 years prior. People tell me to be strong, but guess what, I don't want to be strong. I have been taking care of my mother singlehandedly for some time and I was burnt out. Now she is gone (and after all I have been thru), I have to be strong...I am tired of being strong.