How do you get a durable POA enforced when the covert narcissist mother who signed it is showing signs of dementia resists any help?

Hi Riverale, it was suggested just that, about putting me on the accounts from the new financial company. My mother told me that day she went to the bank and only put me on the savings account, saying they couldn't do it for the checking unless I was in her state. I found out she didn't even add me to the savings account and it isn't necessary for me to travel to another state for the checking! She wants to retain control not only of the finances, but of people, and in doing so, she has alienated all but one of her neighbors, has threatened to fire 2 doctors for no reason, threatened to want to smack a doctor's office employee in the face if she was to see her again, but the guy who attempted to rip her off she still likes. The stress, yes, as you can imagine is horrible, calling me stupid and raging. I realized what narcissism was a few years ago. The worst thing is someone with that and dementia I have learned. What's worse is the public personality, the manipulative and fake one they use to get what they want. I really wish people would be able to report narcissist abuse as real emotional abuse, just like domestic emotional abuse gets reported. What have I been able to accomplish with the DPOA? Nothing permanent yet. Will know more next week hopefully when we meet with this attorney. I will see how it goes. The guy who attempted to rip her off knows more than I do. My Dad passed in 2017 and they had big problems. He only stayed with her for two reasons he told me, because he didn't want her to get half of his money and he stayed for me. My Dad had even made me his health surrogate and she hated it and til this day denies it. One of the worst things I ever heard my Dad say when he was sick in the hospital before he passed was that he didn't want my mother there, because she upset him and he called her a funeral hunter. Can you imagine hearing that?

Hi Anabanana:
Yes, I am in the US. Thank you for the link. We managed to take his name off after it was found out, but that doesn't negate the crime. He has to be reported I agree. It is beyond belief why my mother continues to let him into her home and accept phone calls from him. This is a very confrontational person and for her to do that, there has to be a reason. That's why it is so important for people to keep and eye on these investment people. You don't have to be wealthy these days to be stolen from. There are lots of scams, this guy was one of those who give the free seminars with the free dinners. Don't know if they have them in Canada or not.

Thanks for your reply. Had a look at the DPOA again for anything to do with incapacity. All is states is this, that she intends to hereby render unnecessary any future proceedings for a court appointed guardian in the event of temporary, permanent incapacitation or incompetency. It says she requests in the strongest possible terms that any court that may receive or act upon a petition for appointment of a guardian should deny such a petition so long as my agent is acting under this DPOA.