How do you handle public bm accidents?

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I agree with MidwestOT, there is a need for disposable underwear. I remember when my own Dad (90's) ran into this problem at home. And my Mom (who was in her 90's also) was on her hands and knees trying to clean up the rug or chair.

Dad refused to wear disposable underwear. Mom finally had enough, so the next time Dad had an "oops" she handed him the cleaner and rags. He had to now clean up his own mess. After a few times doing the cleaning, he started to wear Depends. Problem solved.

Oh, turned out my Dad was lactose intolerant, which explained his lack of bowel control at his age. Changing to lactose free milk helped him a lot. But trying to convince my Mom was another story that Dad could no longer have cottage cheese, regular cheese, ice cream, vogurt, anything dairy. She's from the old school that a "little bit" won't hurt.... (rolling eyes).

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I think my husband's issue may be both wheat and dairy. Yesterday he had a doughnut for breakfast. His favorite food is pizza, wheat and dairy. Buffalo wings (wheat in the breading, dairy in the bleu cheese). Cheesesteak subs. Spicy chicken sandwich from McD's. He ate corn recently and of course, the corn came out looking like corn, so that proved, in his opinion, that it is not wheat and dairy. He pointed out that if I take away his wheat and dairy, then he can't eat anything but watermelon. He also doesn't "get" that heart failure causes digestion problems. When I mention that, the name calling begins, Miss Know-It-All, when did you become a doctor. I tell him that I'm just know what I read and he tells me to stop reading.

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There absolutely is a need for disposable underwear. I was thankful that my husband agreed to wear them even though they were never actually needed(outside of occasionally at dialysis). In your situation, I would not take him out without them. Explain that it’s a health hazard to the public if there is a chance he might soil public restrooms. I’m sorry you have to deal with this, I know it’s difficult. And always carry necessary cleanup supplies with you, including gloves.

May I ask why it will be difficult to bring this up to his PCP? Perhaps you could use the patient portal to communicate with his doctor prior to the appointment to let him know what’s going on and then he could ask about it.

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He doesn't "go" in his underwear, his body lets loose AFTER he pulls down his pants at the commode, hence the poo on the back of his pants, belt, shoes, all over the commode, etc. If only it were so simple that he's going IN his pants, but he isn't.

Even if I bring it up with the dr., dh can talk circles around everyone and will give every excuse in the book as to why it happens. And then I will face great hostility for having mentioned it to the dr.

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