I am a caregiver who is taking care of an 85 year old woman who has recently had a stroke. She is in denial of her memory loss and is having a hard time having to "taken care of". She lies in bed all day and wants me to "wait" on her. She wants to make her own decisions but does not want to take physical responsibility for herself. How do I "help" her and still allow her to keep her dignity?
Check with her doctor about depression, too. That is common after a stroke. If the doctor wants to try a medication and one doesn't work, they can try another. They don't all work the same. It does seem as though depression is the issue. Counseling could help, but it's not likely you can get her to go.
That's why I suggest people who will come in to see her.
Good luck. This has to be hard on you.
Carol