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You do the best you can. Its hard taking care of another person. Try not to be hard on yourself. If you need to or can, set boundries. I don't like being at someone's beck and call. Mom was like having a toddler, didn't need anything until I finally sat down. When I took her in, it was never to be permanent. Eventually I placed her in a nice AL just up the street. When money ran out it was then LTC. By that time she didn't know where she was so I didn't have to deal with the "I want to go home" thing.
If you're like many of us, you never saw this coming. It's totally normal to feel overwhelmed and completely burn out!
It's kinda like eating an elephant!!
One bite at time!!
Is Mom living with you or in assisted living?
It's hard not to let your Loved ones needs consume your life, but you need to set boundaries. Not only for Mom, but for yourself.
Do what you can. And don't beat yourself up over what you can't!
Seek counseling. A good counselor can help you deal with the guilt. You're doing all you can. You have nothing to feel guilty about!!
Caregiving for a loved one is not easy. We hit many lows and few highs. It’s a thankless job. I take care of my husband and work part time. I’m seriously considering quitting, but my job is my escape. The idea of sitting and watching Hallmark Movies over and over 7 days a week, 14 hours a day makes my blood run cold. If I do quit, it would take some serious self-discipline to do things for myself and my house. And, this is what you must do. Hire an in home health aide to come sit with your mother. Even if you just go to another room and read or craft, it’s time for you. And, you don’t need to say “how high” each time she says “jump”. I had to learn the hard way to encourage my husband to be as self-sufficient as he can be. Caregiving is a process. This is still new to you. Give yourself some time to adjust. Sending good thoughts and hugs...