A friend of mine has been diagnosed a month ago with lymphoma which is wrapped around her aorta. Her PMD has ordered all sorts of tests but she still hasn't seen an oncologist or even been given a name of one. Is this usual? We live near Sacramento so have large hospitals nearby.
Start reviewing the bios of oncologists at the primary hospital where she receives treatment. Ask about oncology centers, staffing, whether or not music therapy is included, whether or not there are activities for patients and/or their families. Visit them as well.
The infusion center where my sister received cancer and radiation was beautiful, conveniently situated in an area bordered by a marsh from which resident geese occasionally came up to explore, and honk. I could see them from the magnificent atrium, open to the sun, which flooded the area with soothing warm rays.
A Reiki therapist also visited, weekly I believe. My sister found that very soothing in the last months of her life.
This center had art and ceramics groups, needlework displays, and what they called "boot camps" for the patients and their families.
Do some online research about the best oncologists in the area; call and ask if they're taking new patients and the waiting time for an appointment.
I totally agree with others; this is not a condition in which waiting for a referral is appropriate. If you find an oncologist in the same hospital, it's likely that the tests and Dxes would be available electronically to physicians at that hospital.
You might also contact a local Gilda's Club and find out what therapeutic activities are available for your friend, her friends and her family. The local GC here had specific subgroups for various kinds of cancers. You might even meet someone with a similar condition who has an oncologist to recommend.
In the meantime, the family can learn a lot about the whole spectrum of cancer treatment through the CURE magazine, available for free to those with cancer and their caregivers, and also available online.
Aside from that you have not given enough details for people to be able give better advice.
These days due to the many cut backs in funding it is not unusual to wait months for an appointment. In this case it is urgent.
Check their website and see how a patient can be seen for an opinion
What is wrapped around her aorta?
Who told her she has lymphoma?