My 87 yr old mother with dementia moved in with us 10 days ago. She started getting hostile, withdrawn and resistant on day 3. She thinks that she is stranded and that I've tricked her. She has been in 2 nursing homes in 4 months and lost her husband 6 weeks ago. I want this to be her last move. How long will it take her to adjust? @witsend
A couple weeks ago we had a really bad weekend with hallucinations and delusions.
Now she is "typical", in and out.
I'm not sure my mom will ever feel she is at home. I just tell her that we love her and that we want her here and that we can take good care of her.
Like Jeffrey, I take lots of pictures with my iPhone. I don't show them to her at the moment because most days she isn't that bad. I want to remember her as much as I can before she completely forgets me. She can't remember my husband's name and believes that my father is still alive (he passed in January).
Give her time and love and I'm sure she will begin to feel more at home. Surround her with some of her personal things in her room.
ps my siblings dont do jack s--- either, I gave up on them and hired help on my own, their inheritence is gone, oh well, too bad, they should have helped.
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