My father is 90 years old, has severely arthritically crippled hands, can't even move himself around in bed. I know that he needs regular hydration and turning to avoid bed sores. So how long can I safely leave him on his own, assuming I make sure he drinks all he can before I leave him to run errands?
Your explanation seems more caring and rational than my hospice social worker's challenge that the police would have me incarcerated for neglecting an elder person (my husband.) When the time came that I knew my husband could not be left alone, I saw to it that someone was always with him.
Technology could potentially be a short term fit. Make sure he has a emergency response system and or install a "nanny" cam that would allow you to see your dad while out.
The fastest solution is to call a home care agency and set up services. That will also give you time to explore your other options.
Good luck.
Is he in a hospital bed? Can you put the rails up while away? Does he have one of those mattress pads that moves air around to help prevent bed sores? Medicare covered all of this.
You need to get a break from care or you will be no good to anyone. I found even a short trip to the store helped.
Again it more so depends on his mental status. My uncle was completely alert and knew I would be back shortly. If you have hospice as part of his care and he might qualify at his age; my uncle "just" had COPD and lived two more years with hospice care.
Is there someone you can call or text to let them know you are out and when you get back? If you haven't done so look into Hospice they may have other options available to you.