Mother can no longer take care of herself. She is living with my sister who is neglegent and abusive. She is quickly taking all mother's money. Someone said it is impossible to get conservatorship once mother is living with a sibling.
I filed for guardianship/conservator for my parents a couple years ago. It took about 4 months and $4000 and a brief court hearing. But this was uncontested and about as easy as it gets. In your case it could be a costly long drawn out nightmare.
Certainly if a sibling is caregiver of a parent and the parent is living with the sibling it is MUCH LESS LIKELY to get conservatorship. It is in fact likely that the sibling already has some POA to care for the health and financial assets of the parent in her care. If you suspect financial abuse it is time to call in Adult Protective Services to open a file. Any person in charge of finances should have meticulous records to show to APS when they visit. It is quite unlikely you would get guardianship; apparently at some point the sibling was willing to take on this very very difficult and costly care, and has been doing this care, and this is the sibling that the parent, in better times, chose to do this care. A lawyer would be appointed to protect the "case" for the parent. I am assuming that Mom is not sitting there screaming "I want to move with my other child". Costs in a court BATTLE , when it comes to that, are very high. It depends on state and the law and the lawyer you hire, but it could well top 10,000. Watch what you wish for. Taking care of the elder, the placement, the handling of all finances is an onerous and difficult job. I would take care in moving forward. In fact, I would offer help to this sibling if for no other reason to check out what apparently you already "believe". And at worst I would call APS and ask that they open a case, and give them what proof you have of abuse.
It is quite unlikely you would get guardianship; apparently at some point the sibling was willing to take on this very very difficult and costly care, and has been doing this care, and this is the sibling that the parent, in better times, chose to do this care.
A lawyer would be appointed to protect the "case" for the parent. I am assuming that Mom is not sitting there screaming "I want to move with my other child".
Costs in a court BATTLE , when it comes to that, are very high. It depends on state and the law and the lawyer you hire, but it could well top 10,000.
Watch what you wish for. Taking care of the elder, the placement, the handling of all finances is an onerous and difficult job.
I would take care in moving forward. In fact, I would offer help to this sibling if for no other reason to check out what apparently you already "believe".
And at worst I would call APS and ask that they open a case, and give them what proof you have of abuse.