I care for all my Mothers needs including showering, fixing all meals, medical appointments, medicine, financial needs. I am an only child and all her assets go to if she passes away. I live in MA and my mother only income is Social Security with some modest investments and savings.
You will need to bring the Rx from the MD for home care, specifying what assistance and how many hours are needed for her.
He paid X amount for garbage, water, phone, cable, newspaper, food, gas, electric, mortgage and all the rest of the household expenses. Any personal items I had to save receipts and when approved I could take that from his account. the approved items I could write a check each month.
I would consult an Elder Care Attorney and set this up correctly.
The lawyer may cost a bit but it will be far less expensive for you to do it right the first time than try to "fix" what you did.
You may have to become her Guardian.
And as a Child you can charge for being her caregiver. As a spouse I could not pay myself for being my husbands caregiver.
Mom didn't want to leave her apartment. She thought she was fine where she was. One of my other sisters took her aside and "confided" in her that Sis was having some financial problems since she retired and she really needed to rent out her extra rooms. Oh, well, in that case my mother was willing to move to help Sis out!
Old folks deserve the opportunity to pay their own way, to the extent that they are able to. Why should they be deprived of that dignity?
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