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LostChild2: Walk away for now.
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LC2:

Since she's broke, do your best to return the $1,500. That might keep her quiet for about a week or so.

Dumping on you is her way of feeling better about herself and justify the silly financial decisions she's made. My mother did it. I tuned her out. Now I'm an outcast for the Puerto Rican side of the family. But I can live with that. At least I'm at peace and don't have to put up with her BS anymore.

To send me on yet another guilt trip, she once blurted out "Forget I'm your mother" b/c I wouldn't give her $500 to honeymoon in Puerto Rico with a 23 y/o gangbanger from across the street. I said "I'm well on my way."
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I guess it is impossible not to take it personally at times, despite knowing it is the disease and not their true selves. Though the theory does seem plausible that it is their true selves "coming out" (such as with an excess of alcohol?), I have to question it after reading the article in Newsweek (Sep 2008) in which a woman describes her mother's case of "pleasant dementia". Very interesting read.

It seems the things that always irritated me about my mother are exacerbated, and there are new things to apall me now, and the good moments are fewer and farther between. We are living with the grief of losing them while their body shells are still present and require care. It is no wonder there is a support site such as this. Hugs to all, and many prayers go out for each and every one of you.
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