Family, doctors, and social workers agree mom with dementia should no longer live on own. Mom refuses to accept dementia diagnosis, although has cognitive issues and having hallucinations. Mom continues to insist not ready to leave home. Unfortunately bringing aide into home to assist is not an option. Therapeutic lie we’ve tried version of this to get her to tour assisted living facility, didn’t go well. Desparately needing advice.
Mom does not have the option of refusing, and allowing her to convince you that she does, is not a loving or thoughtful reaction for you who are caring for her to have.
Coaxing, postponing the inevitable, deal making, all of these are unfair to her. Whatever the reasons for those responsible for her welfare, the outcome will either be that she injures herself, or worse, or injures someone else.
It is a choice we have all had to make, some of us more than once, in the most loving and caring way possible. Make it now, or be aware that there will be no easier outcome later.
She will be livid, she will insult you and scream and cry, but she will be safe and cared for.
Seeing her in an environment of care and safety is my main goal.