Can you please tell me how is the best way to deal with depression when it comes to your mother. My mother looks so awful and she is 72. She looks so sad. She has every reason to be depressed though. Her life has been very hard and she takes care of my father who is in bad health. She cries about how hard it is to take care of him. I recently was able to get him into a Veterans home and I told my mother and she said she cannot afford for him to go because of the income he receives every month and she doesn't want them to take the home for back owed property tax. Myself I am in no shape to help financially, I have offered her to come live with me, but she says she will lose the house. I cannot help her. I do not live close either. I feel like I just have to watch my mother pass on due to her terrible situation and no help. It is complete torture. I even get upset with her now, something I thought could never happen. She always tells me that the sun isn't out and how dreary it is. Myself I have never minded this. But I am now afraid I will start to let it bother me. I have suffered depression most of my life due to my family and all the bad things that have happened I now have a special needs child and he needs me. I feel so guilty that I cannot do more for my mother. I sometimes think that I would be better off not here. But then my child needs me and I can't do that to him. Please help in any advice. I feel so alone in my guilt and suffering. Thank you.
God bless...
Look into this little know benefit and help her with the paperwork so the application is processed quickly. It does take some time for the paperwork to be approved,but it is RETRO active from the date of application.
VeteransAid.org has information that will help. Please look into it so you feel like you are contributing more to your Mom's help!
Take one step at a time. God bless you.