Although my mother has mentioned it to me over the last year she finally said something about a nursing home to her brother. Hopefully it’s the first step to getting her into a decent place but now I have to wrap my mind around moving her. What do you take the first day? What do you take long term? How long do you stay the first day? When do you start to feel alright with leaving?
I think you selected alzheimers/dementia category in previous post.
if she has memory problems - even if she agrees. she can turn around 5 min later and say "I never said that"
do you live in your mothers home/apartment?
you stay with her 24/7?
do you know how she would pay for a facility if she ever moved?
is she able to afford any outside help so you can have a break?
im not sure if you have provided any of this information in your previous posts.?
I am replying to your post below:
Thanks you for the advice. Unfortunately I’ll have to put it away for now. My mothers moment of clarity has faded and with it any hope of placement in a nursing facility. She has once again turn to her child-like delusion that “everything will be ok”.
The first day we stayed a few hours getting settled and left her at an activity. When did I finally feel ok about leaving? It took a while. I visited a lot and eventually I got used to the aides and nurses, and the routine, and they got familiar with her. It was after a couple of health care issues, I realized that they made the same decisions I would have made had I been present, and I was able to relax a little more knowing she was being more well cared for than I could possibly do.
This is could be your first step to reinventing yourself!