My partner's mother, is starting to have BO, and we believe she hasn't been washing up properly. We have a shower chair and rubber bath mat for safety, and her daughter is willing to help her. She keeps saying she will, but after waking up, she forgets she even agreed to take one.
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Skip the shower and go for the no rinse products; they're very effective, and can be leveraged into a positive event instead of a frightening one.
We had a couple different types of wipes, in the home already, due to my disability. I showed her how I used them, to clean my underarms and face. I then told her we used them "all over" including "down there"(She still has total memories of childhood, up through her marriage) as she put it, and I mentioned, that she could clean herself completely, sitting in the tub, or on the toilet, (if getting in and out, of the tub scared her). We know she used them last night, as the whole house was cleared of the BO.
We've been caring for her for almost 10 years. Her decline was slow at first, then it hit her, seemingly, almost overnight, from a visit up north from her overly controlling brothers. She's such a sweet person, when everything is going well, but her brothers, stress her out. It's a shame, my partner called them up here. She didn't want to believe, that if her uncles hadn't been up here in over 15 years, that they really didn't care. She called them up over a financial dispute, and then the bickering started. I hate control freaks. Suzy, my partner, has regretted that phone call, she made to them all those years ago. I guess all families have dynamics, which change from time to time. Anyway, we really appreciate your help, and I'm going to go say hello...JC