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Start with changing her environment. We did everything we could think of to make it easier for my dad to live alone. There is now nothing stored up high. The top shelves are empty in all cabinets and closets. He has a grabber tool for reaching things he’s dropped. We removed fall hazards like rugs that weren’t secured down well. We added grab bars like crazy in his bathroom, a shower seat as well. There’s a Knoxbox on his front porch for emergency responders to use to get a housekey from if they need to come in so they don’t have to break down the door. The post office has a form to fill out to have mail delivered to the door for the disabled. Order a pendant for her to use for real emergency needs. My dad wears one from Great Call. In essence, make there be less reason for calling. Then absolutely set boundaries and firm ones. Remember there are emergency responders who will come, you aren’t the only source of help, and some things can wait
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Take her out to lunch ( people tend to e better behaved in public places).

Explain that you are finding it impossible to be available to meet her needs as they arise. Suggest a system whereby she keeps a list of tasks for you to do once a week. Suggest that she hire help for big tasks like housecleaning and lawn care. Ask if there is a young neighbor who could reliably bring in her mail each day for a small fee.
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Isthisrealyreal Mar 2019
And move items off top shelves.
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