Lately my dad has been talking incessantly about inviting some distant relatives—sisters in law—out for lunch. I’ve emailed and called said individuals, who don’t respond. I keep telling him this but he insists on calling them again. I’m not surprised by their indifference, they’ve always been fair-weathered and opportunistic but he is in constant denial and his OCD makes him
obsess. Has anyone else dealt with something like this?
So....it is not your job to keep calling, texting, emailing these people. Let your dad contact them and let him deal with their responses.
I would tell him to get ahold of them, make arraignments and you will be happy to make sure he gets there.
Let them deal with the repeated calls and tell him themselves that they don't have time for a meal.
I am sorry that you are being caught between cultures. That must be soooooo challenging.
I would tell dad that they are busy and when their more able to stop by for lunch they will call.
Then say.. why don't you and I go out for lunch.
If he has friends that can join invite them as well. Keep the group small. And outdoors if possible if you have to be inside keep the group even smaller and require masks due to his probably poor immune system.
Bonus of keeping the group real small you can invite 1 friend this week and another the next time you go out.