Mom is stage 6-7, start of advanced Alzheimer’s. Keeps falling and injuring herself. She needs to be re-homed to skilled nursing permanently. She will fight family/doctor decision and make life unbearable for her spouse. Is it ok to tell her she needs to go to recuperate and once there for a bit tell her she’s not coming home? Or, should we just tell her she has to go and will not return home at all? Thoughts please. Many thanks.
Many thanks for your quick, and insightful answers. They are important to our decisions. Hugs to all.
My Mom had to go to NH for rehab. She was falling a lot. She was convinced during a hospital stay by staff.
She did great in rehab but unfortunately her memory was so bad at that point she could not remember to use a walker while in her room and the falls continued.
After the 100 days of rehab she remained in the nursing Home as a resident. She did ask to go back to her house often. And I lied...I told her she needed to stay until she got better and could function in her home.
Sometime after the first year she thought she was in a hospital. So my story was she needed to stay to get better.
I have learned from this site my lies were therapeutic fibs. Not that I was uncomfortable with my lies at the time, really, I had no other explanation her broken brain could understand.
I am so sorry you and your Mom are in this situation, it’s so hard.
When your Mom is re-homed expect and adjustment period. Take staff recommendations as to how to best get your Mom settled in. It will take some time.
Best of luck to both you and your Mom.