We go from one obsession to another. His bedroom is on a Lower level from mine, there also is a Utility room where I keep the Kitty Litter box. For the past month or so hes been doing things like washing his Leather Jacket and putting it in the Litter box to dry..
The first thing I have to do at 6 a.m is run downstairs and open the room so the cats can use the Litter Box because hes shutting the door during the night. The litter box and floor is always full of what I thought was chunks of litter soaked with water. I discovered today he is urinating and DEFECATING in the litter box.I have shown him the bathroom and explained this is where he goes.............he just smirks and says "don't tell me what to do".
I had to move the Litter out of the tiled room to a carpeted area where I don't want it in hopes he'll forget about it.
Can I put a lock on his bedroom door to keep him in there at night or is this abuse? I am about at the end of my rope. I've been dealing with this stuff totally by myself for 4 yrs...........I am tired beyond tired.I had to buy a Micro wave with a child lock on it because he burnt up two. I have to remove the knobs from the stove and hide everything I don't want him to eat. He will eat a 9x13 pan of brownies and well as everything else in the Refrigerator. One night he ate 12 raw eggs..........get the picture?? He gets 3 meals a day he can't be hungry. All these things have to be done before I can go to bed. I sleep in a locked bedroom with my 3 little dogs in there so he won't hurt them or let them out of the house at night
I can't afford a nursing home and his doctor refuses to treat him unless he is in a nursing home so I can't even get sleep Meds for him.
Help!!.
Next, contact a lawyer who specializes in Elder Law, to discuss ways to pay for a nursing home.
Please do not lock him in his room. I can understand how tempting that is but it is not safe, and it might enrage him to the point of violence in his room.
You absolutely positively need help. Meds for your husband can help. Also you need either in-home help or (perhaps better) a care center for your husband.
Lot of good advice was given to you back in August. You really need to make plans on doing something or this will continue to go around, and around, and around in circles. And nothing changes.
Coming here to vent is fine. There's a lot of value in venting and we've all done it but if someone doesn't really want advice they shouldn't ask for it----twice. That's just how I look at it.
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