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So, he's decided against treatment. I can understand that. No surgery? No chemo?
Is he open to natural treatments? Google it. I know there are lots of ideas. Dietary - cutting out sugar which is said to feed cancer, etc. Supplements - a friend of mine used Eissac tea - not sure how it worked since she moved away. I'm sure there are tons of other ideas.
If he is just going to totally ignore it, start having some fun now while he is still feeling good etc. When/if he starts to suffer a bit, go for hospice care because there is no need to needlessly suffer with cancer pain.
My mom, my sisters and I have all had breast cancer scares. My one sister and my mom both chose lumpectomy. My sister was the only one requiring chemo at the time; now she'd be treated with just follow up rads after surgery. We were all pre stage-2.
If that's the case here, it's actually easier to nip the thing in the bud rather than going through the whole painful process of it spreading to the lungs, the brain as happened to one of my friends. It was fhe kind of death no one would really prefer.
If however he's gone through multiple lines of chemo and he's still going that way--if the costs outweigh the benefits--and if it's really 6 months or less expected, engage hospice. They can guide you through this process while ensuring his comfort care medications.
It also has a section on treatments, but presumably he's been through all the options with his oncologist. The same website offers advice headed "Day to Day Matters" but for one thing it is - naturally enough - written for a mainly female audience and for another I have the impression it assumes people are living with treatment and I think you're rather past that stage?
If your husband and you expect he will want to be cared for at home for as long as possible, look for practical support. What sort will depend on what his needs are or may become, and where to find it will probably need research. Are you considering hospice services?
Thank you countrymouse. We will eventually look into hospice, but it's still too early for that. Any good books dealing with breast cancer symptoms and how to best treat them?
It's too early for hospice, but thank you for suggesting it. I just don't know what to expect in the progression of breast cancer and how to help him through it.
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APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
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You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
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Is he open to natural treatments? Google it. I know there are lots of ideas. Dietary - cutting out sugar which is said to feed cancer, etc. Supplements - a friend of mine used Eissac tea - not sure how it worked since she moved away. I'm sure there are tons of other ideas.
If he is just going to totally ignore it, start having some fun now while he is still feeling good etc. When/if he starts to suffer a bit, go for hospice care because there is no need to needlessly suffer with cancer pain.
If that's the case here, it's actually easier to nip the thing in the bud rather than going through the whole painful process of it spreading to the lungs, the brain as happened to one of my friends. It was fhe kind of death no one would really prefer.
If however he's gone through multiple lines of chemo and he's still going that way--if the costs outweigh the benefits--and if it's really 6 months or less expected, engage hospice. They can guide you through this process while ensuring his comfort care medications.
https://www.breastcancer.org/symptoms/types/male_bc
It also has a section on treatments, but presumably he's been through all the options with his oncologist. The same website offers advice headed "Day to Day Matters" but for one thing it is - naturally enough - written for a mainly female audience and for another I have the impression it assumes people are living with treatment and I think you're rather past that stage?
If your husband and you expect he will want to be cared for at home for as long as possible, look for practical support. What sort will depend on what his needs are or may become, and where to find it will probably need research. Are you considering hospice services?