My husband wants me home, I feel I should be with my mom. Which way do I turn?

freqflyer, Yes my Mom is in assisted living..its not all its cracked up to be. I hoped she would settle in & be happy & I could go my merry way & visit less like you suggest. She made a lot of progress in the past 3 months, more than I expected. If she continues to be safe & get stronger.I plan to move her home with the ladies that assist her now. We have started taking small steps to get her back to doing the outside activities with her church friends now that she is better. Not sure she will ever be a happy camper. I'm tired of trying to please everyone. Plus I would really like to get away on a real vacation. I am still trying to finish up my Dad's succession. Everything is here where they have lived for over 30 yrs. Attorney, Financial people, bank, etc. Somedays I'm just burnt & tired & really don't want to do anything. I've had some of my own health problems in the past 3 yrs. The Drs.& chiropractor I see are here. My pelvic floor dropped, I have FMS, back, L3L4L5SA & osteoporosis. PT specialist is here & that is draining. Staying over helped alot & I would go home next day. I have a to do list everyday & the list grows longer when I don't feel good. I've been married to my husband for 44 yrs.& I was 14 when we started dating. So when that for better or worse in sickness & health comes up..does that mean just me & him..or does that include my boys or grand boys or anyone else I love or care about? I just want to be me & enjoy the time that is left in this world. And I've worked & waited a long time to sit on the front porch with my sweet tea & my honey & relax & watch the sun set. But I only got one Moma & his sisters will take care of his Moma. Thanks for the advice. Have a good weekend.