I am disabled myself, but have two younger sisters. My mother lives by herself right now, but if she needs care in the future, I struggle with what to do. I am disabled by painful neuropathy that I have had from the waist down for 5 years. My husband has to do much of the yard and housework and some shopping. I can only stand in one place for about 10 minutes, shop for up to 30 and sitting varies. I have two sisters 9 and 11 years younger and in good health, but I'm afraid of a fight in the future because my sister believes in "fair share" and "taking turns." I already help my mom with things if needed - technology, laundry, light shopping, doctor visits, etc. I am beating myself up mentally because of what might be the future even though I know I can't help because of my own health.
Have you had any actual conversations about actual plans with your mother and your sisters?
And in view of how much discomfort your physical disability must cause you, and for so long too, are you getting any support with your mental health?