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one spouse is much older than the other. The older is aging and requires caretaking while the younger one is still active. This isn’t going to get better. No point in arguing with him.
What is your current care situation? Does he go to adult day care or are there aids that come in while you're not there?
You know he now has a cognitive disease that causes him to lose more and more of his prior self with each passing day. He can't help it. It would help the both of you if you educated yourself about the type of dementia he has so that you can use engagement strategies that will make daily life less stressful for the both of you. You should not be "reacting" to him as if he's his old self (much easier said than done!)
Teepa Snow is a dementia and care expect on YouTube. I've learned a lot from her videos. It is not easy to retrain yourself to deal with an LO in a new way. If he broke his leg and couldn't walk, you wouldn't be short tempered with his inability to get around. Your husband's brain in broken. I wish you much wisdom and peace in your heart on this journey.