My mom has severe dementia. She is like a 2 year old and very demanding like one. I don't know how much longer I can take care of her. I refuse to put her in a nursing home. The chronic fatigue has been terrible. I am even too weak to walk across the house anymore. Everyone insisted I take a vacation and I did for 3 weeks. When I came back I was not refreshed and mom seemed more demanding than ever. Does anyone have an idea on how to get my energy back? I also took care of dad 24/7. When he passed away I thought I would have more energy but I am stuck. I can't get out of this severe chronic fatigue. I really need help for the chronic fatigue.
And that's complicated by taking care of your mother. Can she afford any help (paid out of pocket)? I think that would be the first mental/emotional step, with back surgery the first physical step.
Who will care for her when you recover from surgery?
Give your strong feelings, I think it's time to rethink the situation. What options are available for you?
On a different level, when's the last time you had blood work done, especially iron level?
How's your diet? Are you able to fix good, healthy, nutritious meals?