She had surgery on her right shoulder for a torn rotator cuff. Since then, she has been like an invalid. I finally got an in home nurse and a couple of therapist to visit a few days a week. Sorry I digress but just trying to fill you in on the picture. It became necessary for me to handle giving her medicines to her at the right times. We have gotten into several arguements because she doesn't think I give them to her often enough and she was taking additional doses that I wasn't aware of, God knows she won't let me have possession of all of them. So I started putting each dose in little cups with lids on them. Give her the night time meds myself and put the morning meds on her night table for the morning. I do have my own problems and don't always get up in time to give them to her. They are they and ready for her and my hubby takes her the coffee she has to have to take them. Tonight, she took her night time meds and I tucked her in bed. I just go back in there to check on her and her morning med cup is empty!! There is no other explanation other than she took them. She is denying it but can't explain what happened to them. She will lay blame on anyone else in the house before admitting that she just did this big no no. I guess this plan isn't working either. Ready to pull my hair out.
She still can't go guzzling down extra pain meds like fun, all the same.
So.
Codeine? How long ago was this surgery?
Has her surgeon any alternatives to suggest?
How long has this been going on? - it sounds, from her having more stashed in her room, as though the codeine prescribing goes back way before her surgery. I've been surprised before now about how lightly it's handed out - I ended up hauling a whole bag of the wretched stuff back to the pharmacy long after I thought I'd got all the old meds cleared out of my mother's rooms. And if your mother's getting stroppy about not having more when she wants it, I'd be a bit worried. Mention this to her main doctor.
What about, asking your pharmacist for some ideas? If you're not able (and you're not) to hand over the doses at precise times, maybe there's some kind of automated timing-device dispensing box that will do the job for you. You know, like you get for cat food for people who have to be out all day - the timer trips a little hatch and then you can open the lid.
The only other thing that occurs to me is pain relieving gel, which you (or she, if she's mobile enough) could rub into her shoulder last thing at night. You can get over the counter ones, or her doctor might prescribe them. Anti-inflammatories are absorbed through the skin so get advice on the dosages, don't guess.
Dad called me up one day to remind me to come fill Mom's pills, on a day I'd just done it just the previous day. (His memory was going too.) Needless to say, she had taken almost all the weeks pills in one day. (The result of that is a whole other story) That's when I found the MedReady on-line. Without that, mom would have needed visits at least four times a day. More likely would have ended up in the nursing home two years earlier than she did.
When she finally did go into the nursing home, Dad's dementia was in it's earlier stages, and we immediately started using it for him. After about five years of use, we needed to purchase a new one. Got the one with the super loud alarm this time as Dad is nearly deaf, in addition to the light. We are now at that same point with him. If it wasn't for the MedReady, he would have required much more in person help. long ago.
It sounds like she needs something that has a timer and won't let her take them before it's time and reminds her when it's time.
OTOH, maybe she just likes catching a buzz? I'm not trying to be disrespectful, just curious.
If she's taking anti-inflammatories then it seems more likely she just forgot she already had her night dose and took another by mistake. But why is she being so defensive about it? It would be a good idea to bring it up with her doctor.