Hello, I’m caring for a lady who has dementia as well as cancer. Every day when it's time to change her pull up she insists she is dry and that she doesn’t have to go to the bathroom. She becomes extremely nasty and just won’t budge. After about an hour and a half of her screaming and yelling eventually she will get up and go. It’s exhausting! Does anyone have any ideas on how to do this a little easier?
As the disease progressed, I found that using the bedside commode was easier...I had not room to work. When she became truly incontinent, I took the bucket off and simply set in under the commode. If she happened to go while on the commode, it had a place to fall ;-). Having the bucket unattached allowed me to clean the important areas from below. I used a Peri bottle with warm water and baby wipes.
I found the pullups worked best until we started changing mom in bed...then we switched to the briefs with tabs.
Teepa Snow has some videos on toileting...you might watch those. Good luck. .this is a challenging part of caregiving.
A nurse once told me they have to be careful not to refer to them as “diapers”because it could be insulting to an adult, especially one who has cognitive issues. They refer to them as “underwear” to the patient.