Dad is still at home with my step-mother who is 86, but it's getting to be almost too much for her. I'm his only child and the only family he has left and I'm in a different state. If something should happen to her I would bring him to Florida and he would need to go into a memory care facility. My biggest fear is if something would happen to me, my dad has no one. What are my options to arrange for someone to oversee my father's care and make decisions on his behalf with no other family left?
Getting to be almost too much for her - ! I should think it might well be. Are you on good, friendly terms with her?
Both I and Paulette have POA for my dad and there is no better person than Paulette. Actually, she is not my step-mom (although that is how I think of her) but they have been together for over 40 years so it's just like they are married. I trust Paulette 150% with everything. We have a home health care aid coming in 3 afternoons a week for 4 hours to give Paulette some down time and help with things in the house and dad.
If something should happen to her, I would bring my dad here to Florida but I would need to place him in a memory care facility. I know I could not have him live with me and care for him 24/7.
My concern then is, if something would happen to me, I want to set up either some type of guardian or advocate to oversee his care and end of life arrangements. Your suggestion of Social Services is excellent and I'll explore that. Thanks!