Incontinence shoes. Anyone have suggestions for comfortable, relatively inexpensive, perhaps waterproof shoes?

Her shoes are not the problem. Deal with the problem that's allowing her to drench them in the first place. She can't be going out in public in urine-soaked footwear no matter how waterproof it might be.

It is well past time for Depends over Poise pads or regular underwear, and if that doesn't do the trick, then it's time for adult diapers. Frequent regular trips to the bathroom are also a must.

You say, "It would be great if she kept the incontinence underwear on that I buy for her, but she consistently takes them off when I’m not around. She lives in a memory care facility."Since mom lives in a memory care AL, they should be toileting her often enough to prevent her shoes from being soaked! This is unacceptable that she's found taking her briefs off in the laundry room and is a deficit on THEIR part, not yours. I'd call a care meeting immediately with the executive director and the head nurse to discuss the matter and a regular 2 hr toileting schedule for mom. Not to mention closer monitoring of her whereabouts and locks on laundry room doors. You can buy water shoes on Amazon that are waterproof but again, this is not acceptable for a resident to have urine soaked shoes while paying huge fees in Memory Care Assisted Living. Period. She's being neglected and it's not YOUR place to fix this.....its up to the staff to address it and fix it. Don't accept less from them than you'd accept from yourself if you were caring for mom at home.

My mother lived in Memory Care Assisted Living for just under 3 years, was fully incontinent the whole time, and never once did I have to deal with soaked footwear. Neither should you.

I would suggest you get her incontinence briefs of the pull-up variety.

Crocs are in style.

Honestly - before I would start replacing shoes or buying shoes for the issue - I would consider upgrading her undergarment collection. If she is not willing to go for the Depends type incontinence protection - there are a number of new types of actual underwear for incontinence now - by companies like Knix, Thinx, even Jockey. They are washable. They may not last as long as regular undewear - but they are not single use either.

They can be more costly (up front) than the disposable kind, but it may even out if you do the math. But they are a good option for someone who is looking for discreet incontinence solutions, who doesn't want to wear the more "pull up" like options. They do lose their effectiveness over time of course, and have to be replaced.

There is also the option of incontinence pads in her regular underwear, as well as the more discreet types of disposable incontinence underwear. And then of course the kind most people think of when they think of Depends.

I suppose it really depends on what you mean by incontinence though. And you would have to look for the right kind of incontinence underwear for her needs. Some of them are made for very light "oops" kind of leaks. Others are made for heavier absorbency for heavy incontinence.

If she is ruining/wetting shoes AND already wearing incontinence underwear - I would wonder if she is wearing the right level of absorbency for her needs - or changing that level often enough. I would start with adjusting there first, and then try to deal with shoes if all else fails.

You take Mom to the bathroom every two hours even if she thinks she does not need it. Let her sit for a while to make sure she voids completely. She must wear somekind of incontinence panty.

Since your mom rips off the incontinent briefs I would do as another suggest and buy the washable incontinent underwear you wash. If she tries to rip those off, she can not. If she takes them off it means she just does not want to wear underwear. I feel for you. Good luck in finding a solution.

So much harshness. This lady is trying to help Mom!

1. Sit with Mom and a Dr and explain that the incontinence is an issue, not to be ashamed of, and is able to be handled.

2. Allow Mom to help with the purchase of her undergarments. Most are invisible under clothing. Assure her of that, and remind her that people can smell urine if there is not protection.

3. Buy her shoes from some of the previously mentioned recommendations.

4. Bless you for loving Mom and caring for her feelings!

What does the memory care facility say ?

kmac2017: The memory care facility should have her on a toileting schedule so that her footwear do not get soaked.