We've been caring for my mother now for three months and you'd think it would get easier, but instead it gets worse. She makes daily sarcastic remarks to me, like, You're an Oakie" (because I go barefoot at times), or 'Surprised you're up so early", or "You can't sing, you try thought", or "All you do is play on the computer", etc., etc. blah, blah, blah. I can't stand at times to be in the same room most of the time because it is very hurtful. I don't know that she realizes she shoots out stupid caddy remarks, but I'm pretty tired of it and frankly it makes every day suck! I feel completely trapped.
I found that as my Mom's dementia was settling in, her filters dropped and she would pop off hurtful comments. Zingers. It got to the point where I would say: "Mom, you are being rude and that is uncalled for" and then I'd remove myself from her presence (mind you, I learned this lesson after countless tearful encounters with her). My mom changed after she finally had a spiritual conversion. Thankfully.