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It is totally crazy! Doesn’t make any sense. So, what do they mean exactly? What has to happen? If something drastic happens at her age it is life threatening! That’s not fair to her or you. They are not protecting her. What did the ER workers say about her living conditions? Can’t they be a witness that her living conditions could be dangerous for her? Can you ask them about what they have seen in other cases and if there is any hope for your mom?
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rovana Feb 2020
I think that the law is that if competent, a person has the right to put themselves in danger etc. etc.  Well I used to drive the LA Freeways daily and that is sure danger. It seems that you just have to stop any enabling and hope that the "train wreck" is not TOO bad. "Protection" would be for people not judged competent, like infants.
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Needhelpwithmom, I thought this was my chance!! My mother admitted to all of the clutter all over the house. She just kept saying no. Nobody is coming inside my house. I took the social worker aside crying and pleading and my hear was racing trying to get her to understand. Nobody, not even the doctor who took off her disgusting smelly socks would call APS. Nobody. She told me I could call but don’t expect them to help since she has her mind. My mother refuses life alert too. She just said try taking her to her family doctor for a mini competence test to see if she understands all the risks of living home alone. So in the car I asked her if she wanted to follow up with her family doctor and she said no. I told the social worker that I back off and only see her twice a week. She said that’s all you can do until something happens to her. This is crazy!!!
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ExhaustedPiper Feb 2020
Elaine, the social worker thinks a 95 year old hoarder who doesn't bath or change clothes "has her mind"??? That social worker is an idiot!

Start getting really "assertive" with these lazy do nothing "professionals". Ask her name, ask for paper and pen to write it down, then write it down and tell her you are reporting her for incompetence and calling your lawyer.

I know that comes off as extreme but sometimes that's what it takes to get some action.

Sending you a huge hug.
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Elaine,

I am so sorry. Isn’t it pathetic? Oh, but if she lived with you and this was happening, you could be at risk for elder abuse. None of it makes sense. Right?

So, how is your mom? Was she afraid? It’s terribly sad that she can’t see that she is hurting herself and her family. What a shame.

So, basically the social worker gave you no hope.
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