My husband is 91 with ALZ, and he is pretty much confined to his room. He can come out, but I encourage him not to and bring everything to him. His aide comes in the morning to shower and dress him, and I have hand sanitizer at his door to be used upon entering. Other than her it’s just me and my girlfriend in the house. My gf is a Dr and goes to work each day (she does not go in his room). I’m young and healthy, and I miss seeing my son and the children, but of course I don’t want to put my husband at risk. Of course I would take precautions and once I was back in the house I would shower before going into his room. Perhaps this question is selfish of me to even consider, but the two year old really misses his “Loves” aka grandmother.
How young is young, by the way? I'm delighted to read that you are young and healthy, but I assume you're speaking comparatively?
The point of social distancing is to reduce radically the number of contacts between individuals in a given population and thereby disrupt the virus's spread. The two year old no doubt is in exuberant good health, but that does not mean he is not harbouring the virus. Your son will have been in contact with a further cohort of individuals. Every person you add to your individual list of contacts increases the risk to everybody you come into contact with. And you cannot shower your respiratory tract.
Please don't think I don't sympathise. I am extremely hacked off that Mothering Sunday was postponed indefinitely because I haven't seen my son, DIL, granddaughters and newly married daughter in six months, or my other daughter for eight weeks, and I was sorely tempted to go ahead with our planned get-together. But then I had to ask: is this *essential*? And no. Not essential. Humph.
Your g/f's being a doctor, by the way, is a problem. I would like to assume that she herself is aware of the problem and is taking all precautions; but do stay on top of this situation. Is it possible for her to use a separate bathroom and avoid shared rooms in your house?
We have a news item today about a doctor being evicted from the room he was renting *because* he is a doctor. And of course, like everybody else, my first response was "well really! What a way to treat our NHS heroes!" But on reading the rest of the story, and reflecting for a while, I see that the landlady had a point. She has her own health and her family's to consider, she is not well, she cannot have in the house somebody who is daily coming into contact with many sick people. We are going to have to work out a better way of housing and catering for our hospital staff, that's all.
I hope you get to see your children and grandchildren soon.
Be well.
And even if we said yes, all three of them would be buried in their iphones, so that isn't worth the risk in our book.... [sigh].
In Freehold a family thought it would be nice to still have their weekly family dinner on Mar 3. These people did not live together. Out of 7 people 4 died. Someone carried the virus.
No, I don't think it is a good idea to visit your grands. Ur Dr. GF could bring the virus home with her. Then u infect the grands. Stay home. This virus will not die out if u don't stay home.
We are up to just about 1800 and 65 deaths in Louisiana. State wide mandatory stay at home order, businesses closed, stores are only open for essentials.
stay home
the only way to be certain is to stay home.
flatten the curve.
One also needs to take into account that the USA as a country is much bigger than a European country. Several European have mentioned that they can travel within 9 hours by car from one European country to another. They couldn’t believe that they drove that many hours in Texas, and were still in Texas. They did not realize how big Texas was. They mistakenly thought they can cross the US by car ... and were still in Texas...
Therefore comparing Italy to the US is incomparable. Google ‘size of Italy vs USA’. =)
I would suggest it is time to experiment with video visits with your children and grandchildren. Facetime, Facebook, Zoom and Skype are all fairly easy to operate options. Of course, regular phone calls can work wonders too. Have your children and grandchildren send you plenty of pictures. Send them pictures too.
The most distressing part of COVID-19 in the social distancing required. Anybody can have the virus and pass it along without having any symptoms. Try to hold out a little longer until the pandemic has passed.
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