My husband took his mom for blood work last week for an appointment today.
The doctor took MIL off all pain medications because her levels of narcotics did not match the prescriptions. The doctor said to use Icy Hot.
His birthday is this weekend and now he is concerned about narcotic withdrawl.
Is it safe to go?
I don't hear you complaining. I hear you trying to get his mother better care.
I went shopping for the week, when I came home my husband was banging and clanging around, MIL asked to come home, he told her no she doesnt have help to be here. She was whining about wanting a cheap table I purchased for $50 at an estate sale. I told him to take it to her if it will keep her from coming here.
When he took the table, an APS investigator was there with her about the medication. My husband is not computer savvy so when we thought there was problems with the medication, he started documenting drop offs counts and had the facility initial or sign. The man wanted the book but my husband said no, you can have copies and we made the copies.
We went to a marriage counselor today. He is upset I nag and complain about his mom's care. I do not understand according to him.
I grew up in Chicago so my mom called and said she is going on vacation at the end of the month. I talked to my boss and am taking a week of vacation to watch her place. I need some space.
I am also surprised at the doctor. I would think he is a mandated reporter. He should be reporting this place.
They did not drug test the animals, but they did drug test mil. If she was documented to have taken said drugs, then there’s a record of who said she took them. Or there should be a record saying that she refused to take them.
She's on some of the most powerful narcotics out there--but her blood levels do not show it? Sounds like somebody is dipping into MIL's supply and she isn't aware of it. This is a common problem in NH's, sadly. OR--she's not taking them, either tossing them or hiding them. My FIL did this, after he died and I was cleaning I found PILES of pills under his recliner. Pain pills, yeast pills, antibiotics---nothing that would have led to an earlier demise by their absence. But a known dynaminc in some elderly who don't want the meds they've been prescribed.
BUT--her Dr sounds like an idiot. IF she has been receiving any level of pain relief from whatever was prescribed, she will not receive anything near that for pain from Icy Hot. Good grief. I, for one, hope she isn't in pain, or hasn't really needed those meds.
It's not, he welded an odd dolly to put my oak dining room chair on so MIL could be moved. I am angry, very angry. I do not understand MIL's power over him. She manipulates.
I believe someone in this effed up place your MIL is in is stealing medication from her. That is a crime.
The police should be contacted.
MIL should not have to suffer because of someone elses thievery.
Can't belive your husband didn't go to that facility and raise Holy hell. Sounds more like the MIL is in hell not you.
I have been married over 20 years and I do need to look out for my interests.
I think your husband should be worried about the substandard care his mother is getting.
I hope he can work out a way to move her soon. Hoping your shoulder feels better!
I planned a 2 day birthday get away a few months ago and hired a nurse for the insulin shots for 2 days. I was trying to have a break.
I was at work today and my husband called me and asked if I had IcyHot. I told him no the sleep dr told me to use Blue Emu on my shoulder. He said the doctor said that will not work, IcyHot only.
We have suspected medications are missing. The workers text and say she is out of medication. There is a nasty call and the administrator always calls the doctor and states the medicine is found in her office.
This was the first drug test ever by the doctor. She did not have the correct levels, they were low.
When he tried talking to the doctor the doctor stated he could not discuss it at this point which makes us believe there will be a report filed.
I think maybe what’s happening is that caregivers are stealing moms medication.
In other words, is she not getting the required dosages at the "home" because someone(s) is stealing her medication?
It sounds like the doc is not concerned because there is so little in her system. And thus, she won't be going through withdrawal.
Maybe your husband could call the doc and ask that specific question. And ask her/him if it's safe to go away this weekend.
It sounds like the facility should be reported for criminal behavior, yes?
I’d ask if he has been looking for a better facility, but it’s all I can hope for that he isn’t still planning to bring her to the house that he shares with his wife so “he” can take better care of her.
There is a petty part of me that wonders what respite care he would trust his mother to if she was living with him and he wanted to take a trip?
I am surprised that a responsible MD, having solid evidence of abuse, would stop all medications in this manner without some careful withdrawal protocols and contacts. Is there a POA for health care who can discuss this matter with Mom and the MD.
Some medication withdrawals done without careful titrating can be very problematic indeed.
Who will be caring for Mom or watching over her while husband is gone? How far away will he be by phone, by car if he is needed. Who can access emergency care for Mom if it is needed in his stead?
However, what will be accomplished by his being here? He can’t prescribe these meds himself.