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I. How We Work in Washington. Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services. APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
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Is your stay permanent? What is your mom's financial state? How old is she? How old are you? Can she come stay near you? I'm asking because my philosophy is that financially able parents with strenuous care needs (who don't want to transition to AL or LTC) should really be compensating their caregiver children if at all possible. But if she doesn't have the financial means, then I understand that is not an option. I manage care for 2 elderly aunts out of state. My means are greater than their means, so I don't ask to be compensated for air travel when I visit them (plus, I love visiting them!). And they are 97 and 100 and I'm worried they will out-live their savings (they've been retired since 1975!) But most people aren't that fortunate. If you mom has means and depending on the quality of your relationship and her mental state, I think it is totally fair and logical that she help with some of your expenses.
The other commenter is correct about Medicaid (probably) being your mom's only other option. But you can contact your state's council on aging (in MN we have Seniorlinkage.com and they are very helpful in identifying resources). You can contact your mom's county for services she may qualify for (they will come in to assess her), you can engage neighbors and friends, and you can contact her place of worship (if she has one). You can research whether your county/state allows family members to get paid as PCA (personal care attendants). This may require a certification or your mom being on Medicaid.
Many women are so loving and generous in wanting to care for their aging LOs. But often they don't have a clue what they are signing up for as the care just gets more intense. Transitioning your mom into a reputable facility will not only give her the medical care she needs but she won't be in a "sterile" environment where she is only with 1 person all day long (you). In a care facility she will have many more social options which is good for her brain and you can still visit her as much as you want. My MIL has been in a Medicaid room in a great facility for 2 years now. We tried to care for her in her home but it was just too much with me working full-time and still having kids in school. The NH nowadays are so much better than when your mom was young.
Help is state specific. Don’t get your hopes up for financial help, especially in this day and age. I’ve learned on here that pretty much your only chance is through Medicaid. Good luck.
Rwhipple contact your local Area Agency on Aging. They can assess your situation and let you know what services are available. Also contact the Adult Protective Services. They may know of additional services. Come back and let us know how you are doing.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
The other commenter is correct about Medicaid (probably) being your mom's only other option. But you can contact your state's council on aging (in MN we have Seniorlinkage.com and they are very helpful in identifying resources). You can contact your mom's county for services she may qualify for (they will come in to assess her), you can engage neighbors and friends, and you can contact her place of worship (if she has one). You can research whether your county/state allows family members to get paid as PCA (personal care attendants). This may require a certification or your mom being on Medicaid.
Many women are so loving and generous in wanting to care for their aging LOs. But often they don't have a clue what they are signing up for as the care just gets more intense. Transitioning your mom into a reputable facility will not only give her the medical care she needs but she won't be in a "sterile" environment where she is only with 1 person all day long (you). In a care facility she will have many more social options which is good for her brain and you can still visit her as much as you want. My MIL has been in a Medicaid room in a great facility for 2 years now. We tried to care for her in her home but it was just too much with me working full-time and still having kids in school. The NH nowadays are so much better than when your mom was young.
contact your local Area Agency on Aging. They can assess your situation and let you know what services are available.
Also contact the Adult Protective Services. They may know of additional services. Come back and let us know how you are doing.