My boyfriend's father lives alone in an apartment complex for the elderly. We are 200 miles apart. Everyday I hear him talk to his father on the phone and everyday the man has either fallen out his bed with no way of getting up by himself. (Very over weight), or the wheelchair (cannot walk) broke, or he fell out of it, etc. He refused to go to a place that provides the care he needs nor will he move with us. I'm worried he will fatally hurt himself and not have any way of getting help. The father also speaks of suicide at times. My boyfriend doesn't want to cause any problems but like I said, one day, it could be fatal. Is there an anonymous thing that can be done where someone goes and inspects his living and maybe take legal matters to get him the help he needs?
I personally don't think I would make the same decision he is making. I think his decision is wrong. But competent adults are allowed to make decisions that seem wrong to outsiders.
Well now that you have explained more about your boyfriends father it seems he is living his life as he pleases. Maybe that’s why your boyfriend won’t interfere?
Could he be happier elsewhere I don’t know. Safer, cleaner, medicated no doubt but happier. Maybe not.
When he falls and can’t get up how does he finally get up? Does he call 911 or a neighbor? Is there an office number at the place where he lives?
How long has it been since your BF has seen his dad?
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