Is this annoying or is it just me?

In a world beset by real problems, people at war, animals drowning in dam destructions, people inhaling smoke from fires that go on and on and on, people losing their homes, their very lives or living in dire poverty-- it is always a wonder to me what we Americans can find to beef about, Lisa. We haven't even been visited by war on our own lands for generations.

So no, I cannot imagine being annoyed by what you describe.

Try to have a broader perspective. Try to concentrate more on how lucky you are.

I am going to tell you what I tell other children annoyed that there are other people living their lives around us.

Excuse me, is still VERY effective.

A simple, "Excuse me, can I get in there" would have saved us all from this ridiculous post.

If I were able to get my extreme overwhelming dizziness under control enough the past 14 weeks to get out of this house into a grocery store, I'd have avoided that scene and felt pity for the pair suffering thru it. And I'd have celebrated my first public outing in 14 weeks, big time. Instead, I'll stay home and continue praying to God to relieve me of this toxic reaction I've had to cancer treatments intended to buy me a bit more time on Earth.

It's just you.

Lisa--

What you are describing is 'life' in the world.

People are all around. We have to be aware that not everyone acts like we'd like them to.

You are talking about something that is very much a "First world problem".

Yes, it's hard to have compassion--but you don't what these people are fighting against in their lives.

Maybe by being part of the solution, instead of snarking at people under your breath-you'd be happier.

No matter how stressed 'I' am, I really try to make a point of being kind to all the people I encounter in my daily life. I am by no means perfect, but I sure get a better 'wah' from people when I am kind, rather than acting privileged.

A simple 'excuse me, can I squeeze past you' would have solved the 'problem'.

Lisa I think you are looking at this all wrong.

You should be grateful those farts weren't the silent but deadly kind.

Now about you waiting in the aisle while it filled with the adorous scent of God knows what should make you question your own sanity.

Everyone knows you have to wait at least 15 minutes before entering a biohazardous fart zone lest you are over come by said noxious odor and find yourself passed out in said aisle at the mercy of these horrible people.

Lisa,

Please read JoAnn’s posting to you.
Go back and read your response to JoAnn. Now, pretend that you are someone else who is reading your response. How would you interpret your response?

May I speak honestly with you about this particular post? Without you becoming defensive? I know that you’re stressed, just realize that my comments aren’t in any way a criticism of you personally. I understand how much you care about your father’s well being.

Hey, if you don’t like what I have to say, you don’t have to respond back. Deal? Fair enough? I won’t be offended.

Go see a therapist and say to them exactly what you said to JoAnn. I will tell you what my therapist said to me when I felt the need to control everything.

He asked me, “Why is it so important for you to be in control? Does it really matter who does what and how they do it as long as the job gets done?”

Do you know what I came to realize? My therapist was right and that I had an ego problem and a controlling issue and I was packaging it as “caring.” My therapist was objective enough to see the situation accurately. I was grateful for his willingness to present thought provoking questions to me.

Lisa, do you really think that you let go of this situation? I don’t. I really don’t.

Trust me, I have had my share of issues with brothers. I’m grateful everyday that I found peace. It is so worth it. There is healing, regardless of your situation with your family, if you are willing to seek help. I don’t mean one or two sessions. Make a commitment to invest in therapy for yourself. Take the opportunity to learn and grow. There is no joy in remaining stagnant, drowning in despair.

I think MD1748's response is spot on Lisa. I don't understand why being annoyed at this episide requires a posting here. If this is the only annoyance you've had lately, count yourself lucky. Just acknowledge you're annoyed and it may be perfectly valid. Why do you need to post here seeking validation for your feelings? In past postings you've had similar questions, not about annoyance but looking for validation for your feelings or your responses to situations. On some level you doubt yourself so want us strangers to give you a pat and say, "yes, yes, poor you, how awful." But I will say that when people here have given advice that suggests you're over-reacting or that you should seek counseling or get out of the situation, you take it with good humor and seem to learn from it (at least until you post again with some new "situation"). Do you like the AC forum so much that you are looking for an excuse to post and interact, even though it may be totally unrelated to caregiving?

To answer you question.....YES, IT'S JUST YOU!
Please get a life and quit bothering the good folks on this forum with your nonsense.
Surely you have more important things to do right? Or do you?

Thanks everyone who replied. I think part of the reason I posted was because of the story of what I saw in the grocery store. I thought some people might think it was funny, even though I was very annoyed by the situation.

After reading your posts it occurred to me that where I live now is definitely different then where I moved from. It is much more densely populated here and so there are more different types of people and situations around.

I never thought things would go this way for my father and my brother would treat me in such a disrespectful way. I am now much more able now to distance my self from my brother, physically and mentally, but the recent past actually haunts me! I can't even believe I feel that. I used to be completely "together" and had everything under control. I have a lot to be thankful for, as some of you have said, but like I said there is a point at which it's so difficult. It feels good to at least tell someone, like via this forum, how I feel. I do feel better. Thanks again.

Good point Lisa. We can either be annoyed or find it funny.
Our choice.