I was at my mil house yesterday I had to use the bathroom when I went in I noticed there was feces all over the toilet floor and tissue holder. I wiped everything down. She was saying her home is clean but that is not true she is 89 years old and her house is very dirty. She was always immaculate. She has been looking very unkempt. Is this dementia?
My own Mom use to keep her house so clean it would pass the white glove test. By the time she was in her 90's, her eyesight was failing due to macular generation, I could see dust everywhere, dust she could no longer see. Thus it was seeing and not dementia in my Mom's case. An no way on earth would my Mom allow a cleaning crew to come into her house, she was insulted when I had mentioned it, so I just let it be.... [sigh].
Then we found out the vacuum cleaner that Dad was using to help Mom, the roller blade was no longer going around. Ah, that explained why I never saw vacuum bags on Mom's grocery list !! Wonder how many years they were using that vacuum cleaner in that condition.
One of the biggest signs with my LO when her dementia began was overlooked, because, I thought that she just didn't care about things being sanitary. Her sheets were filthy, but she didn't want them washed. Same with her clothes. Same with bathing. Handling food and not washing hands. Something just goes and they may not think of those things. Also, they get confused about how to clean themselves, hand-eye coordination, focus, etc.
I have a friend, who came home from a trip and discovered feces all over his mom's apt. He had to have professionals come and clean. He never discovered why she did it, but, it was the first sign of her dementia.