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all my friends keep telling me I will have to place my loved one in a nursing home. Not sure how to go about this not knowing general nursing home time for the average patient of alzheimers. Thanks and God Bless.
Thank you Jeannie G. for the wonderful explanation. What you wrote certainly gives me some guidelines to think about. My husband is experiencing daytime sleepeness. Our primary physician told us no medication helps much which is disheartening, Perhaps he should see a geriatric physician. I hope this helps others too. G
Sharirose, my husband had Lewy Body Dementia, which differs from Alzheimer's in significant ways. But the general wisdom for all kinds of dementia is that eventually the disease progresses beyond what can be managed at home. I belong to a caregiver support group of other people taking care of loved ones with LBD. Most of them eventually have had to place their parent or their spouse. Most, but not all.
I was able to keep my husband at home for the 9.5 years of his disease. He died in our bedroom, holding my hand, in November last year. I never promised him that I would never put him in a care center. None of knows the course of the disease and what we can handle. I did promise him that I would never abandon him. If the way to get him the best care was to have him go to a care center, I would spend a lot of time with him there, I would be his advocate and make sure he was getting what he needed. I would always love him and want him to have the best possible care. We talked about this several times in his more lucid moments. We were both glad he could stay at home, but that wasn't fully under our control. We were lucky. Yes, I was a good caregiver. Yes, he had outstanding doctors. But other people in the support group had those advantages, too, and the disease just got beyond them. They were unlucky.
I could not have kept him home even the first year without solving the vexing problem of his nighttime agitation. The solution was a drug. In fact, the solution for us for many dementia-related problems was a drug. My motto is "better living through chemistry." My husband was definitely not doped up. One drug he took was specifically to combat daytime sleepiness. His wonderful geriatrician and his expert neurologist both had as their goals the highest quality of life he could have. Drugs were part of managing that.
I also could not have kept him at home without help. I never had someone help 24/7, but he did go to an adult day health program a few days a week as long as he was able, and then we had a personal care attendant 32 hours a week. I worked from home so I was usually there in the house when the attendant was, but it was wonderful not to have the full burden of his care. She helped him with his baths and helped me take him on outings, such as to the children's museum. In the last few months I also had Hospice care.
Was this journey hard? Oh my yes! Would it also have been hard if he had needed to be in a care center? Certainly! I don't think there is any way that having a spouse with dementia can not be hard. For me the question was never about trying to make it less hard for me, but trying to ensure he got the best care possible. If he had needed a care center, that is still what I would have been trying for.
Yes, some people can keep their loved one at home through the entire course of dementia. But there is a large element of luck involved, and not something you can control.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
I was able to keep my husband at home for the 9.5 years of his disease. He died in our bedroom, holding my hand, in November last year. I never promised him that I would never put him in a care center. None of knows the course of the disease and what we can handle. I did promise him that I would never abandon him. If the way to get him the best care was to have him go to a care center, I would spend a lot of time with him there, I would be his advocate and make sure he was getting what he needed. I would always love him and want him to have the best possible care. We talked about this several times in his more lucid moments. We were both glad he could stay at home, but that wasn't fully under our control. We were lucky. Yes, I was a good caregiver. Yes, he had outstanding doctors. But other people in the support group had those advantages, too, and the disease just got beyond them. They were unlucky.
I could not have kept him home even the first year without solving the vexing problem of his nighttime agitation. The solution was a drug. In fact, the solution for us for many dementia-related problems was a drug. My motto is "better living through chemistry." My husband was definitely not doped up. One drug he took was specifically to combat daytime sleepiness. His wonderful geriatrician and his expert neurologist both had as their goals the highest quality of life he could have. Drugs were part of managing that.
I also could not have kept him at home without help. I never had someone help 24/7, but he did go to an adult day health program a few days a week as long as he was able, and then we had a personal care attendant 32 hours a week. I worked from home so I was usually there in the house when the attendant was, but it was wonderful not to have the full burden of his care. She helped him with his baths and helped me take him on outings, such as to the children's museum. In the last few months I also had Hospice care.
Was this journey hard? Oh my yes! Would it also have been hard if he had needed to be in a care center? Certainly! I don't think there is any way that having a spouse with dementia can not be hard. For me the question was never about trying to make it less hard for me, but trying to ensure he got the best care possible. If he had needed a care center, that is still what I would have been trying for.
Yes, some people can keep their loved one at home through the entire course of dementia. But there is a large element of luck involved, and not something you can control.