I have cared for 89 year old mom with alzheimer's in my home for the last four years. I also babysit my grandchildren 6 days a week. They range in ages 5 months to 4 years. They are used to being around "Grammy". She is currently in rehab after a hospital stay for pneumonia. During her hospital stay, it was discovered that she has a tumor in her lung and nodules throughout both lungs. She has had 2 previous bouts with cancer, so without going through a biopsy, the doctors are certain that it is cancer again. I have been advised to start the process of hospice when I bring her home. . My question is, has anyone experienced adverse reactions from young children on being around a dying person? Should I consider placing her in a facility when the time comes near? 2 of the children are very sensitive, and while they love Grammy, I don't want them to be scared. I also want to do whats right for my mom, and I also don't want to have regrets later. I'm torn.
I didn't know what was wrong with him and I certainly didn't know he was dying. Several times, every day, I'd go into his room and visit with him. We talked, laughed, and played. These memories are the best and, in fact, only I really have of my grandfather.
I can't remember when he died, whether it was at home or at the hospital. The only memories I have are of the wonderful times while he lived with us.
Your grandchildren might very well remember their great-grandmother in the same way I remember my grandfather and our relationship and suffer no negative consequences.
I don't know how my mom handled it, but obviously she didn't tell me that he was suffering and dying.
Just one experience that you might consider when resolving this problem.